| 1. | Am I building good relationships with my children? |
| 2. | Am I supporting my child’s relationship with my ex-spouse? |
| 3. | Have we stopped our conflict when our child is within earshot? |
| 4. | Am I refraining from: |
|  Bad-mouthing my children’s other parent? |
| Putting my children in the middle? |
| Pumping them for information about their other parent? |
| Subtly pressuring them to side with me? |
| 5. | Am I returning stability to our home and following routines? |
| 6. | Am I being warm, supportive, and available? |
| 7. | Do my children and I communicate openly? |
| 8. | Am I providing clear rules and consistent discipline? |
| 9. | Am I keeping as many details of their lives the same as I can? |
| 10. | Do I avoid burdening them with adult responsibilities, roles, and worries? |
| 11. | Am I seeking out sources of social support for my children? |
