| Navigating Through The Divorce Process
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Sponsored by: Positive Parenting Through Divorce Class Online (http://onlinedivorceclass.net) Navigating through the divorce process may seem challenging at times because emotions are unstable and unpredictable. During the initial stage of divorce when parents are deciding to separate, the actual divorce process becomes more of a reality for children. Even if you've discussed with your children that mom and dad are planning to separate, the reality does not usually set in until the separation takes place. Many times, children either deny what they don't want to happen, or secretly hope that parents will change their minds. So don't be surprised if your child's reaction to divorce is more apparent during the actual separation. There are instances where divorce provides emotional relief for children if living together was stressful. Remaining married for the 'sake of the children' is not always the right thing to do. Many times children may also secretly wish that their parents would separate or divorce so that the fighting and animosity between the spouses will end. Emotional turmoil in the home can have an enormous impact on a person's ability to parent, and a child's ability to connect with each parent. Divorce is not always a negative transition for families. So when your friends or family members tell you "I'm sorry" when they hear the news, you may find yourself responding with 'Why, things are going to be less stressful around here and I can focus on being a better parent." Divorce is due to differences between the parents-not children. Be careful not to allow any negative feelings toward your former spouse to dominate your actions. Remember, the marital relationship is terminating, not the parental relationship! |