| Parenting Divorce And Guilt
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Sponsored by: Positive Parenting Through Divorce Class Online (http://onlinedivorceclass.net) Parenting through divorce often presents with feelings of guilt. Children may feel that they in some way contributed to the divorce, and are not able to keep their parents together. If the idea of parents separating is completely new to the child, it is important that they understand that every effort will be made to ensure that as much as possible, the child's life will remain the same. Keep in mind that children (especially ages 5 through 12) will ask the same questions over and over with respect to the separation and divorce. This is normal and it is their way of gaining a sense of security and reassurance about the future. It is important to keep your answers simple and consistent. Of course, when one parent is being questioned apart from the other, that parent should make every effort to reinforce the message that the separation/divorce is taking place because of differences between the parents. These conversations should be conducted without damaging or disparaging remarks about the other parent. Children will adjust to their parents' separation/divorce more easily when parents can show a healthy sense of respect and caring for the other parent despite difficult circumstances. |