| How can I help my Infant and Toddler?
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 Sponsored by: Positive Parenting Through Divorce Class Online (http://onlinedivorceclass.net) Infants and toddlers are affected by divorce because of the stress and tension transmitted to them by their parents, changes in their routines, and lapses in their care due to their parents' distress. Infants reacting to stress may develop eating and digestive problems, become fussy and aggressive, or wake up more often crying during the night. Toddlers most commonly react to stress by becoming irritable and aggressive, have temper tantrums, and regress to earlier forms of behavior. If they develop pronounced fears about separating from a parent, they may wake up crying during the night. Infants and toddlers need a stable environment and regular schedule. Consistency, stability, and routines are very important. Frequent contact with the non-custodial parent, as opposed to separation from the primary care giver for long stretches of time is best. Infants have a limited memory, so it is recommended that the nonresident parent spend a few hours with an infant every two or three days, engaging in lots of cuddling, talking, and playing. This type of interaction on a regular basis, along with the parent's responsiveness will determine how securely the attachment will be. When the toddler is 18 months old, more liberal guidelines for visitation may be indicated. Each situation is different and must be evaluated based on the individual child's needs. Engage in lots of play and cuddling while trying to maintain a schedule your toddler is comfortable with. Continue with at least one contact in between, along with a brief phone contact as well. If overnight stays are indicated, and significant signs of stress emerge, return to a daytime schedule. |