| Doubt And Concern With Your Divorce
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Sponsored by: Positive Parenting Through Divorce Class Online (http://onlinedivorceclass.net) Parenting though divorce brings about feelings of doubt and concern at times due to the lack of control and information about what happens when children are with the other parent. There is a desire to find out about everything that takes place at the other parent's house. Many times, the curiosity extends beyond the children and into the personal life of the former spouse. Your children are not informants and should not be questioned for information about activities or relationships of the other parent. Show an interest in the activities your children are willing to openly discuss with you without excessive questioning. Showing no interest in your children's activities while spending time with your ex-spouse sends the message that you do not approve of your children maintaining a close relationship with the other parent, which will lead to guilt and loyalty conflicts. Your opinions regarding your ex-spouse and their new mate should remain positive or neutral to allow your children to feel as if they are a part of both families. The time spent with either parent should be viewed by everyone as time that should be enjoyed. It is crucial for the children to feel that everyone is trying to love them. |